Me & family take turns caring for mother.
She is not in any pain, but it is our duty to ensure that she is as comfortable as ever. All of us are being briefed on what to expect from mother's worsening situation by the palliative care unit. We are all in a journey of our lives.
The most important thing for us is not to panic. Just show your calmness and composure and always make her feel good.
If we show our sadness to her, she will feel the sadness and this can affect her courage.
On the spiritual side, never ever let her forget the word "ALLAH". Allah the Almighty, the God that we pray and remember, must always be on her mind. We strive to ensure that she always remember ALLAH.
I embarked on a project called Khatam Quran. Since she is now at home, I ensure that when it is my turn to be with her, I must recite the Quran. On the day 16th Jun until now, I have covered half the Quran. I must ensure that I khatam (finish) the Quran before the start of Ramadan.
Mind you, reading Quran does not mean reading it in Arabic. I also read the translation to my mother. By this way, it will not benefit my mother alone, but it also benefits me.
May Allah give me strenght to go through this. Praise only to Allah the only God!!
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Saturday, June 25, 2011
Caring for mother at home
On 16 Jun 2011, begins a new chapter for me and my family.
University hospital discharged my mother and now starts me and my family to take care of her at home.
We bought a bed together with a bubble mattress to prevent bed sore.
Me, brother and 2 sisters made some schedule to take turns (shift) to take care of her.
We also got the hospital to advice us on paliative care (care of a dying person).
We also have engaged a home nursing service in case we need one.
But the most important thing all of us need is the spiritual strenght to ride through this wonderful "journey".
A strong believe in Allah (the one and only GOd) is essential to give us the strenght. In Quran verse 6:2; "He (Allah) is Who created you from clay, then he gave you a term (life before you die), and only He know the term (your life span),
and still you doubt"
Every single living thing must die. Allah knows how, when & where each one of us will die. We must face it wheather we like it or not. We must realise that death is another chapter in our life where we will leave this world and enter a new world.
On 21 Jun 2011 (Solstis day), where on that day is the longest daylight for North Hemisphere and longest night in the Southern part of the world, my mother was in real pain. All of us did not know what to do. She hardly slept, and every 10 minutes starts to moan & groan. It started at midnight and lasted until 8pm that day, until she finally got to sleep.
The next day, we consulted the Paliative Care doctor & she explained in detail on how to face that kind of situation. We also checked the spiritual side on how to calm mother when faced in this situation.
After that challenging day, the coming days became easier as we followed instructions and took care of her. We exactly know what to do and we are calm in the stuation.
Yes, me & family face great challenge in caring for a bed ridden mother. But, we are most greatful to Allah, to give us the opportunity to be close to mother
and take care of her. It has been very satisfying experience indeed.
Make dua for my mother.. May Allah make her easy..
ps. This posting is specially for Sarah Neff (my foster sister in Switzerland) and sincerely hope she reads it...
University hospital discharged my mother and now starts me and my family to take care of her at home.
We bought a bed together with a bubble mattress to prevent bed sore.
Me, brother and 2 sisters made some schedule to take turns (shift) to take care of her.
We also got the hospital to advice us on paliative care (care of a dying person).
We also have engaged a home nursing service in case we need one.
But the most important thing all of us need is the spiritual strenght to ride through this wonderful "journey".
A strong believe in Allah (the one and only GOd) is essential to give us the strenght. In Quran verse 6:2; "He (Allah) is Who created you from clay, then he gave you a term (life before you die), and only He know the term (your life span),
and still you doubt"
Every single living thing must die. Allah knows how, when & where each one of us will die. We must face it wheather we like it or not. We must realise that death is another chapter in our life where we will leave this world and enter a new world.
On 21 Jun 2011 (Solstis day), where on that day is the longest daylight for North Hemisphere and longest night in the Southern part of the world, my mother was in real pain. All of us did not know what to do. She hardly slept, and every 10 minutes starts to moan & groan. It started at midnight and lasted until 8pm that day, until she finally got to sleep.
The next day, we consulted the Paliative Care doctor & she explained in detail on how to face that kind of situation. We also checked the spiritual side on how to calm mother when faced in this situation.
After that challenging day, the coming days became easier as we followed instructions and took care of her. We exactly know what to do and we are calm in the stuation.
Yes, me & family face great challenge in caring for a bed ridden mother. But, we are most greatful to Allah, to give us the opportunity to be close to mother
and take care of her. It has been very satisfying experience indeed.
Make dua for my mother.. May Allah make her easy..
ps. This posting is specially for Sarah Neff (my foster sister in Switzerland) and sincerely hope she reads it...
Sunday, May 29, 2011
Kesibukan & ujian Allah padaku
The last 2 weeks (16-29 May 2011) has really been a very hectic schedule for me.
I am really busy with meetings on a back-to-back timing.
2 of my staff (one meternity), another on long medical leave making the unit a bit stretched. I thank the rest of the team for holding the fort.
I did tell them that we all need to be mentally and spiritually strong especially facing the "sergeant". We must also be ready to answer his questions.
But, if he is really in a bad mood, then just keep quiet, no point arguing with a person on fire..
But with laptop (technology) and sheer determination, I found myself to be facing this problems with little trouble..
On 21 May, my mother was diagnose with cancer and was confirmed terminally ill. That really shocked me!
But after looking at the bigger picture, inilah kepercayaan kita kepada Qada' & Qadar Allah. Teruskan berusaha & selebihnya kita berserah kepada Allah yg Maha Besar.
I have come to terms with my mother's condition. Me, my brother & sisters as well as wife & daughters will make the most of whatever time left with her.
We will cherish these moments and we want to make her as comfortable & happy as possible.
Kepada Allah kita pasti kembali & doa kita agar dikembalikan dalam keadaan yg baik. Amin...
I am really busy with meetings on a back-to-back timing.
2 of my staff (one meternity), another on long medical leave making the unit a bit stretched. I thank the rest of the team for holding the fort.
I did tell them that we all need to be mentally and spiritually strong especially facing the "sergeant". We must also be ready to answer his questions.
But, if he is really in a bad mood, then just keep quiet, no point arguing with a person on fire..
But with laptop (technology) and sheer determination, I found myself to be facing this problems with little trouble..
On 21 May, my mother was diagnose with cancer and was confirmed terminally ill. That really shocked me!
But after looking at the bigger picture, inilah kepercayaan kita kepada Qada' & Qadar Allah. Teruskan berusaha & selebihnya kita berserah kepada Allah yg Maha Besar.
I have come to terms with my mother's condition. Me, my brother & sisters as well as wife & daughters will make the most of whatever time left with her.
We will cherish these moments and we want to make her as comfortable & happy as possible.
Kepada Allah kita pasti kembali & doa kita agar dikembalikan dalam keadaan yg baik. Amin...
MU won 19th League title
I am writing about MU season for 2010/11.
This season MU won the English Premier League for a record 19th time, surpassing Liverpool for the 1st time ever. That, to me is a very proud achievement indeed.
Arsenal came third with 13 titles.Everton 9, Aston Villa 7 and Sunderland 6. Liverpool last won it in 1990, Arsenal in 2004, Everton 1987, Aston Villa 1981 and Sunderland 1936.
Other previous winners are 4 titles for Chelsea, Sheffield Wednesday and Newcastle United.
3 titles won by Leeds United, Blackburn Rovers, Wolverhamton Wanderers and Huddesfield Town.
2 titles won by Derby County, Man City, Spurs, Burnley, Portsmouth and Preston NE.
1 each for Forest, Ipswich Town, WBA and Sheffield United.
There are only 23 teams that have won it and the latest team to have won is Nottingham Forest in 1978 under the late Brian Clough.
So tribute to Sir Alex Ferguson for his phenomenal achievement in winning the Premiership, an achievement that will most likely stand the test of time.
Man City won the FA Cup, making a double achievement for the City of Manchester. Man City also qualified for the Champions League slot. They are a succesful team this season.
The League Cup was won by Birmingham City, but they were also relegated. I do not consider Brum as successful this season.
MU also qualified for the Champions League Final, losing to Barca 3-1. Well, Barca is a great team and having reached the Finals is very good for MU this season.
Nani impressed me the most this season. Hernandez is a suprise. But the really hero for Man U is... Nemanja Vidic (the captain). He is really the strenght to MU this season.
So, looking forward to next August and I am really2 happy for MU this season.
Thanks for the entertainment.
This season MU won the English Premier League for a record 19th time, surpassing Liverpool for the 1st time ever. That, to me is a very proud achievement indeed.
Arsenal came third with 13 titles.Everton 9, Aston Villa 7 and Sunderland 6. Liverpool last won it in 1990, Arsenal in 2004, Everton 1987, Aston Villa 1981 and Sunderland 1936.
Other previous winners are 4 titles for Chelsea, Sheffield Wednesday and Newcastle United.
3 titles won by Leeds United, Blackburn Rovers, Wolverhamton Wanderers and Huddesfield Town.
2 titles won by Derby County, Man City, Spurs, Burnley, Portsmouth and Preston NE.
1 each for Forest, Ipswich Town, WBA and Sheffield United.
There are only 23 teams that have won it and the latest team to have won is Nottingham Forest in 1978 under the late Brian Clough.
So tribute to Sir Alex Ferguson for his phenomenal achievement in winning the Premiership, an achievement that will most likely stand the test of time.
Man City won the FA Cup, making a double achievement for the City of Manchester. Man City also qualified for the Champions League slot. They are a succesful team this season.
The League Cup was won by Birmingham City, but they were also relegated. I do not consider Brum as successful this season.
MU also qualified for the Champions League Final, losing to Barca 3-1. Well, Barca is a great team and having reached the Finals is very good for MU this season.
Nani impressed me the most this season. Hernandez is a suprise. But the really hero for Man U is... Nemanja Vidic (the captain). He is really the strenght to MU this season.
So, looking forward to next August and I am really2 happy for MU this season.
Thanks for the entertainment.
Monday, May 9, 2011
MU on the way to winning 19th League title
I watched the match they called "Super Sunday" between MU and Chelsea on Astro last night. What a match it was!
MU is on the way to break Liverpool's record of winning 18 League title. The last time Liverpool won the League title was in 1990. At that time MU won only 7 League titles and it will take maybe 100 years to break Liverpool's impressive record.
But 21 years down the road, Sir Alex Furgeson has really achieved something that even Bob Paisley did not achieve in Liverpool. MU won 11 League titles from 1993 until 2009. Only Blackburn, Arsenal and Chelsea broke the sequence. If not, MU would have won it every year!!
There is another 2 more games left, with ONE point to be collected to be crowned as the RECORD 19th League Champions
Congratulations Manchester United!!
MU is on the way to break Liverpool's record of winning 18 League title. The last time Liverpool won the League title was in 1990. At that time MU won only 7 League titles and it will take maybe 100 years to break Liverpool's impressive record.
But 21 years down the road, Sir Alex Furgeson has really achieved something that even Bob Paisley did not achieve in Liverpool. MU won 11 League titles from 1993 until 2009. Only Blackburn, Arsenal and Chelsea broke the sequence. If not, MU would have won it every year!!
There is another 2 more games left, with ONE point to be collected to be crowned as the RECORD 19th League Champions
Congratulations Manchester United!!
Monday, May 2, 2011
MU lost to Arsenal
Assalamualaikum,
Here again I am writing about "hating Arsenal" rather than "supporting MU"
On 1 May 2011, Arsenal beat MU 1-0 and I felt very sad. Actually I need not be sad as MU is still top of the heap (3 points clear) with 3 games to go. They are also leading Shalke (2-0) in the Champions League with the return league at Old Trafford on 4 May 2011.
People talk about history, that MU has a bad record against German teams in Champions League. People also talk about MU having good record against Arsenal at the Emirates. All these talk about past records is just history. We know that it is the match day that is important and past record does not count.
Back to the defeat by Arsenal.. I felt that this game is so important to show Mr Arse Wenger that MU is superior than Arsenal. That game really showed that I am a "Arsenal hater" more than "MU supporter". I just love to see Mr Wenger angry!
I am writing to remind myself that, I must erase this feeling.
Anyway, MU will need to bounce back from the defeat. The defeat will make MU more determined. The next 2 games at home (Shalke & Chelsea) will determine the outcome of this season. I am very confident that MU can win both the games in style.
Thanks
Here again I am writing about "hating Arsenal" rather than "supporting MU"
On 1 May 2011, Arsenal beat MU 1-0 and I felt very sad. Actually I need not be sad as MU is still top of the heap (3 points clear) with 3 games to go. They are also leading Shalke (2-0) in the Champions League with the return league at Old Trafford on 4 May 2011.
People talk about history, that MU has a bad record against German teams in Champions League. People also talk about MU having good record against Arsenal at the Emirates. All these talk about past records is just history. We know that it is the match day that is important and past record does not count.
Back to the defeat by Arsenal.. I felt that this game is so important to show Mr Arse Wenger that MU is superior than Arsenal. That game really showed that I am a "Arsenal hater" more than "MU supporter". I just love to see Mr Wenger angry!
I am writing to remind myself that, I must erase this feeling.
Anyway, MU will need to bounce back from the defeat. The defeat will make MU more determined. The next 2 games at home (Shalke & Chelsea) will determine the outcome of this season. I am very confident that MU can win both the games in style.
Thanks
Minggu ini - 23-29 Apr 2011
Sedikit catatan yang keluar dari fikiran saya secara spontan.
Minggu ini, majikan saya beri laptop menggantikan desktop yg telah saya guna sejak tahun 2002. Dengan laptop ini, saya menjadi lebih "mobile" dan boleh melaksanakan kerja dengan lebih berkesan (insyaallah)
Minggu ini juga saya "submit" income tax return...
Minggu ini juga saya bawa ibu saya ke hospital swasta. Selalunya saya bawa ibu ke hospital kerajaan saja, tapi setelah mengambil kira masa & faktor kesihatan ibu yang semakin lemah, saya decided to bring her to private klinik. Saya akan menjaga ibu sebaik mungkin, dan saya bersyukur diberi peluang oleh Allah untuk menjaga beliau yang kini berusia 76 tahun.
Saya juga sangat2 bersyukur kpd Allah kerana saya juga dapat meluangkan masa bersama-sama isteri & 4 orang anak perempuan. Kesempatan ini saya ambil untuk menasihati mereka bahwa sentiasa jangan lupa akan "Allah" walau dimana saja mereka berada & pada setiap masa.
Anak kedua saya dapat penghargaan dari SMK(P) Sri Aman kerana berjaya mendapat 8A dalam PMR tahun lepas - Alhamdulillah
Minggu ini juga, saya "pulun" belajar bahasa Arab saya terutamanya bab fi'il dan isim. Saya harap saya boleh maintain this momentum.
Minggu ini, ada insan buat sumpah laknat, menunjukkan bahwa beliau benar dalam satu hal. Kita sama2 serahkan perkara ini kpd Allah. Dia Maha Mengetahui...
Minggu ini, jiran saya (Mak Midah), balu kpd Allahyarham Tan Sri Basir, buat kenduri. Ramai yg hadir, dan jemputan khas ialah Al-Fadil Ustaz Harun Din.
Masyaallah, tazkirah yg diberi sangat berkesan, dan muka beliau.. sungguh bersih & bercahaya. Dari pancaran muka beliau saja boleh dilihat ketenangan & keimanan.
Sesungguhnya dengan mengingati Allah sahajalah, hati menjadi tenang.
Ya Allah.. syukurku padaMu menjadikan hidup ini sungguh indah sekali...
Minggu ini, majikan saya beri laptop menggantikan desktop yg telah saya guna sejak tahun 2002. Dengan laptop ini, saya menjadi lebih "mobile" dan boleh melaksanakan kerja dengan lebih berkesan (insyaallah)
Minggu ini juga saya "submit" income tax return...
Minggu ini juga saya bawa ibu saya ke hospital swasta. Selalunya saya bawa ibu ke hospital kerajaan saja, tapi setelah mengambil kira masa & faktor kesihatan ibu yang semakin lemah, saya decided to bring her to private klinik. Saya akan menjaga ibu sebaik mungkin, dan saya bersyukur diberi peluang oleh Allah untuk menjaga beliau yang kini berusia 76 tahun.
Saya juga sangat2 bersyukur kpd Allah kerana saya juga dapat meluangkan masa bersama-sama isteri & 4 orang anak perempuan. Kesempatan ini saya ambil untuk menasihati mereka bahwa sentiasa jangan lupa akan "Allah" walau dimana saja mereka berada & pada setiap masa.
Anak kedua saya dapat penghargaan dari SMK(P) Sri Aman kerana berjaya mendapat 8A dalam PMR tahun lepas - Alhamdulillah
Minggu ini juga, saya "pulun" belajar bahasa Arab saya terutamanya bab fi'il dan isim. Saya harap saya boleh maintain this momentum.
Minggu ini, ada insan buat sumpah laknat, menunjukkan bahwa beliau benar dalam satu hal. Kita sama2 serahkan perkara ini kpd Allah. Dia Maha Mengetahui...
Minggu ini, jiran saya (Mak Midah), balu kpd Allahyarham Tan Sri Basir, buat kenduri. Ramai yg hadir, dan jemputan khas ialah Al-Fadil Ustaz Harun Din.
Masyaallah, tazkirah yg diberi sangat berkesan, dan muka beliau.. sungguh bersih & bercahaya. Dari pancaran muka beliau saja boleh dilihat ketenangan & keimanan.
Sesungguhnya dengan mengingati Allah sahajalah, hati menjadi tenang.
Ya Allah.. syukurku padaMu menjadikan hidup ini sungguh indah sekali...
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